Stressful Work & Solution...???

Hiaz...

Haiz...

Mood isn't tat good now...
Coz i juz realise tat, the words tat come out from my insensitive-&-stupid mouth, made my frenz veri angry... Prehaps, my words may hve spoiled her whole wkend mood, yet i'm still unaware of it until juz Now... Juz after i type my apology entry, off my computer, sat down... I start wondering tis question in mind...

Recently, my frenz ard mi, wasn't in veri good mood, as compare to mine... Tis make mi feel like i'm still living in a happy go lucky world, yet others r still suffering miserably wif their work... Wat is the main problem tat make them feel so sianz, so low spirits, so boring in their life...

Tis answer came to my mind, which i hope i guess right, is STRESSFUL WORK...
I wonder how many plp r mentally prepared when they choose a course to study, n decide to make tat as their career...??? Yes, at tat time, we will always say words like, "Yes, we noe tis job is tough, but i'm willing to try n produce good results..."

No doubt abt tis, tat answer is always the standard answer when plp ask u abt ur preparations...

However, when we r into the shoes, or should i better describe it as, into the hot soup... We find urself living in a veri stressful life...

When u first start working... Tat company may gives u a veri good feeling... U find every staff is friendly n approachable... However, when u r deeper into the company, u will discover urself the "dark" side of ur company... No doubt abt tis... Tis will always happen in watever company u join...

We tends to grumble, we tends to compare wif colleague on work load, we tends to compare wif frenz... etc... And lastly, we derive by saying tat things r not fair...

"She gets so much for her salary, yet she always sit in her own office, kicking her legs, touching up her makeup, n do nothing... Wat she needs, is juz a telephone, to inter-com everyone, to instruct them to do things..."

"His working hours is 9-5pm/5 working days per week... And still receive $2XXX salary, yet i hve to work like cow to receive tat pathetic salary..."

"Such things u shouldn't ask mi... Coz i'm not the one in charge... If i answer to u, n anything crop up... i need to pay for the consequences..."

Blah blah blah...

We tends to complain compain complain...
I remembered, i am always complaining in my blog, when i start working in my current company... I scold tis person, i scold tat person, i call him stupid pig, i call her no-brainy... I write all sorts of things which i feel unfair...

I am a veri-follow-book idiot... Thus, when i see plp doing things which should not be the proper way of doing... My eyes will turn red... And all sorts of negative feelings will rush out from the inner side of mi... It feel like, i make myself too tense already... I wasn't loosing up myself, to relax abit...

Other den the above tense working atitude, i like to complain other things oso... I complain abt the little sleep i hve for everyday... I complain abt the long working hours tat i need to do for every wkend... I complain abt the little time i had for my family... I complain abt the reduced number of times i gone for clubbing... blah blah blah...

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I tink we plp need to learn tis fact, work is never ending... They will keep on coming n coming, juz like my mother's laundary basket, which can never be empty. It will always be full, n she need to wash n wash n wash... yet it could never be finish washing...

So, how can we make ur working life better... We muz learn to REJECT...!!!
Learn to reject when plp ask u to do things... However there is a line in doing tis... Do not do overboard... If u over-done tis, u simply pissing everyone up, n u ended up been dislike by everyone, juz like how u dislike ur superiors...

For example, there r a handful of jobs tat r in-charge by mi... So if these jobs came back again, n i need to do them... I WILL DO THEM, even if i hve to do OT... Coz i noe, these jobs r directly in-charge by mi... Becoz, if i "tai-ji"(Meaning pushing) them to other colleagues for doing... i juz dunno if my colleague noe how to start doing, or will they mess ard wif the folder tat i done for tis job... And when next time i need to refer back to tis job... I may hve problem sorting the folder first... And if i "tai-ji" it to other colleagues, my other colleagues will oso not happy abt tis... Juz like plp "tai-ji" to mi, n i am unhappy abt tat...

However, if plp ask u to do something... I believe it is up to u to say yes or no... Unless u tell mi "NO" is not an option for u in tat situation... Ur superior ask u to come back to do tis project during the weekend... Prehaps, if tis is the first time or such "asking" rarely happened, u may not feel any unfairness at all... However, if such situation arise almoz every wkend... Den u muz learn to REJECT... Coz u may hve already observed, tat tis particular person is always taking advantage of u, by asking u to do things for them... Or he always ask u to do stuffs for him, but he never ask the remaining colleagues to help him... Some sort of favouritism policies existing in tis situation...

U work until veri late from Monday to Friday... U reached home late, went to bathe den knock off to sleep at 11pm... Next morning, u still need to wake up at 7am... U simply feel tat u r living miserably during the wkdays... Of coz u will hve the strong mindset tat u wan to preserve ur wkends for u n ur family onli... However, there is tis inconsiderate personnel, tat always ask u to return back office to work during the wkends... Of coz u feel unafir n angry... U simply find tat u hardly had any time left for urself liao...

U muz learn to reject... I dun see the problem y other people(colleague) can reject, yet u can't reject... Humans dun need to be so true-ful in all the words they say... U can juz blah some un-trueful reasons in order to save ur wkends, or ur wkdays evening, so tat u can spend time wif ur family...

"I'm going to Sentosa wif my galfrenz on Sunday... Sorri... i'm not free to help u for tat work..."

"I'm meeting my galfrenz on Sunday... It is a veri important apology meeting n dinner day... Thus, sorri, i can't help u wif tis..."

"I going wif my Mom to visit my Auntie at JB during tis wkend... So, pls pass tis job to next person pls..."

"Today is my Mom's BDay, n my family is hosting a dinner celebration at ??? restaurant... I need to rush to there immediately after work... Ur thing, pls ask someone else to help u... Ur thing need to be submit tmr morning... Even if i help u to do it tmr morning, the earliest i can finish is evening time, which i tink may be quite late liao..."

"I'm hving an annual chalet party wif my primary school frenz during tis wkend... Like wat the word annual says, we onli meet each other once a year... Thus i dun wan to absent myself from tis gathering... No doubt we will be drinking liquor there... I may ended up sleeping there n absent myself on Monday oso..."

Blah blah blah...

Try to blah some good or strong reasons... Dun give stupid reason like i need to sleep during wkends... Always make ur firm stand in doing things... Dun get urself always carried ard by others... These plp r simply too cocky to keep on ordering plp to do things for them...

As long as u maintain ur positive atitude on work, n produce excellent results... Sooner or later, u will find plp standing in same line as u, to form an anti-superior group against ur cocky superiors...

However, there is another point tat we huamns should take note... Dun slap urself on the things tat u complain on others... U complain abt others for doing such despicable actions, yet u urself oso do it... By doing tis, u r simply pulling urself in the same low-class wif the person tat u r scolding... And u dun deserve to complain on others as well...

For example, i hve colleague coming in to clock free OT, yet doing nothing, or things tat r not related to work... I "@#%&!@#%&" them on their behaviour... But i wun allow myself to make the same mistake as them... If i do so, i'm simply slapping myself hard on my face... I had my own sets of rules & regulations which i will stick closely to, no matter wat...

After i blah so long above... I wonder if there is plp tinking tat i'm trying to teach u all to be a irresponsible working person...

Look! Tink abt tis... The things tat other plp dun wan to do, "tai-ji" n ask u do for them... Do u not tink tat they r simply irresponsible person, n u will be responsible person by doing work for them... NO! U simply making urself a good target for them to bully on...

I believe everyone is intelligent plp... U can differeniate urself, whether the plp tat ask u do things, is purely to lighten their own work-load, or they really need help urgently... Help those tat u tink deserve u helping... And casting a nerve look on those bullies...

They may be shameless enf, to beg u almoz every week, saying they hve important meetings during the wkends, thus they need u to do work for them... Den why dun u tink back, even if u got no dating during the wkends, u can still spend ur time wif family n relax... U can still ask frenz out for chit-chat to release stress... Tat's wat frenz for...

One of my relaxation method make mi look like a loner... I like to spend my relaxation time, by sleeping thru-out the whole wkend... No doubt i like to sleep... Sleep for long hours, like a small baby... Skip breakfast, skip lunch, skip dinner, n wake up to hve my next day breakfast... At least, i noe i still enjoying my wkend at my own pace...

So, if u mastered the power to REJECT... U may find ur working life is much better...

To Two Of My Frenz:

Work is never ending... If u find u may not be able to finish today... Den prehaps u should end ur work at a suitable time for today, n go home for a good rest... Dun work work work, work until 10pm den u realised it is so late... By the time u get to home, bathe, dry hair n ready to get to sleep... I believe time is already after midnitz liao...

Sufficient daily rest shall affect ur working ability/efficiency for the next day... U do not wan to start ur everyday wif a goommy feeling...

So, take care!